Your best birth is up to you. No one else can get you through it. No one else knows your body. No one knows what it feels like to be in your body, what you consider comfortable versus painful, or what makes you afraid versus what makes you feel strong. One of my favorite midwives often said that a woman’s darkest moment in labor is one where she comes to realize that there is no Knight In Shining Armor that will save her from the pain and fear that she faces. Once she comes to terms with that fact, this terrible realization becomes ultimately freeing and beautiful. The mother realizes that the only one who can save her from this darkness is herself. She has to stay living in her body when the intensity of her labor makes her afraid she might die. She has to come to terms with the burning pain of pushing her baby out. And she does.