Affirmation: (def) a declaration that something is true.
The mind is the greatest tool you have during labor. For many women, the biggest challenge of giving birth is “moving out of the way” of their bodies, and allowing them to do their work. Giving up control in our mind and letting our bodies take over a process is not a muscle that we exercise very often.
Birth Affirmations are a powerful way to train your mind to step out of the way of your body, and many women attest to their effectiveness in creating smoother, shorter, and less challenging labors.
Birth Affirmations are so powerful. Using birth affirmations daily, especially during late pregnancy, can ground and uplift you in the wild intensity of labor more than any physical preparation I can think of. Think of it like this: your affirmations weave a rope that you can hold onto in your hands as you journey into the deep, dark unknown that is labor. When you are feeling lost, you can whisper those familiar words and find your way back to your center.
I didn’t learn about the power of affirmations in a book, class or website. My patient, D taught me, during her third labor and birth. Though it was her third, it would be her first unmedicated vaginal birth. It was D’s life goal to have an empowering natural birth, and she knew that she owed it to herself to do everything in her power to make it happen. Because it mattered so much to her, she took that responsibility very seriously, and prepared herself as much as possible.
She brought a hundred neon-colored little cards into her labor room, and stuck them to every surface in sight. She made me laugh because she stuck one to her delivery table (which is supposed to be sterile) and two on the face of the only clock in the room. She said that in previous labors the clock had beat down on her, because she kept looking at it and thought to herself that way too much time (or too little time) had passed.
I will never forget her. Because she faced every dark demon that approached her during this birth with grace and fearlessness. How? She knew the words that could defeat them.
When her baby was born, her first words were, “I did it! I can’t believe I did it!”
D did done the work in her heart long before she did it with her body.
And that, my loves, is a declaration of something true.
- Everything is going right.
- I feel the strong waves of labor and know that everything is normal and progressing.
- I relax my mind and muscles.
- My body knows how to have this baby just as my body knew how to grow this baby.
- Keep breathing slow and even. Inhale peace, exhale tension.
- Keep my mind on acceptance and surrender.
- I surrender my birthing over to my baby and my body.
- My body has a wide-open space for my baby to descend.
- My body will give birth in its own time.
- I love my baby and I am doing all that is necessary to bring about a healthy birth.
- Birth is an easy and natural occurrence for which my body has been perfectly designed.
- I am ready and prepared for childbirth.
- My job is to simply relax and allow the birth to happen.
- Just let my body do it; let it happen.
- I see myself handling everything beautifully.
- Each contraction produces a healthy, positive pain that I can handle.
- Birth will go exactly as it should.
- I deserve this wonderful birth!
(from Desert Birth & Wellness)